Remember we are continuing with knowing our identity, and as earlier stated, we at times know what we want, where we want to go, and what we have, but we do not know who we are. And in these blogs i want to dedicate some of my time to helping you to know your identity. And remember I earlier stated that our identity is built by about Three major components of life, and these are the Biological, Psychological, and social.
In this Blog I want to talk about the Psychological part of it. And scholars have defined Psychology as the scientific study of human mind in relation to people’s behaviors and attitude. In other words this branch of science analyzes the ability of the mind to think and process everything and control our actions. However, Scholars have defined Four major temperaments where all of us can sit down and analyze ourselves in the context with their definitions. And these are Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic, and Phlegmatic.
According to Psychologists, they claim that the four temperaments dictate people’s behavior and management of issues. I agree with them in a bigger degree because whether they are right or wrong, but after studying their material, you can judge yourself. And they go on to say that all Human beings will at least have two temperaments and that one overrides the other and at times one may reflect more than two.
Character type: these are some of the characters exhibited by sanguine people; lively, optimistic, carefree, always attention seekers, creative, talkative, and they have a high sense of commitment. They normally do well in careers like marketing, entertainment, fashion, political career, sports, and any form of leadership. At times they are easily trapped into the following weakness like addiction to certain things, fraud because of strong desire to achieve, deception, anger, Jealousy, poor concentration skills, and short-temperedness. (You can add).
Character type; these people are always friendly, baring or patient, less talkative or only talkative to people they know, they always have big-hearts (like giving or helping), and always advisable. They normally suitable for careers like teaching, Nursing, counseling, social services, and accounting. Some of their weaknesses may include fearfulness, poor at conflict solving, in trouble they hide and cry alone. (You can add).
Character type: goal-oriented people, analytical, logical, practical, straightforward, tend to be lonely, and savvy. These people are normally fit for the following careers like: management, technology, engineering, programing, statisticians, and researchers. They normally have the following weaknesses like; rigidity, addictions, poor at keeping relationships, and can easily betray. (You can add).
Character type: Hardworking, goal oriented, fast at everything, visionary, quickly relate to those who please them, big-hearts (giving), and self-sacrificing. The weakness for this personality type are- easily irritable, short-tempered, grumpy, cranky, rigged, and easily attracted to rumors. The nature of work they normally enjoy is related to the Melancholic.
However, in life people normally posses at least two of the temperaments or they oscillate between two of the above, no one has only one. And the above temperaments have been based on to determine people’s personality for years. But it is important to know our type and work on our weaknesses at all times. And it is the role of any leader to help others develop their personality in life. To their strengths they need encouragement and to their weaknesses they need to be given alternatives.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) Given time, can you describe your temperament?
(ii) What are the weaknesses in your temperament?
(iii) What are you doing to minimize your weaknesses?
(iv) What are doing to build on the strengths in your temperament?
(v) How are you impacting others with the temperament that God bestowed on you?
Argument 3: personality according to Carl Jung
3.1 Carl .G. Jung’s theory to personality
Carl claims that people’s personality can be categorized in four ways; Sensing people, intuition people, thinking people, and feeling people, and he concludes by saying that the following are ways of identifying these people;
(a) Sensing (discerning) people: these people have the following traits: – Practical, they rely of facts, numbers, they can easily drift from a system provided they sense something not right, can easily detect what is not right, cool tempered, forgiving people, present oriented, a bit fearful, not easy at adopting new systems, normally make decisions basing on the prevailing situations, and are always specific.
(b) Intuition (instinct) people: these people are insightful and inspirational; they rely on theories, trends, they always fear to start new ways, they stick to systems, hard to tell their temper, decision based on the past experiences, at times rigid, and are future oriented.
(c) Thinking people: these ones are governed by rationale, they are always objective, most times reserved, so analytical, they take long to arrive at a decision, most times in conflicts or arguments, can be banked on for new ideas (innovative and creative), hard to stick in system, can easily be short-tempered incase if others disagreeing with their stand, somewhat attention seekers, and are always time cautious.
(d) Feeling people; these ones are governed by emotions, always sympathetic, can easily give, can easily be convinced, their goals change by how they feel and can easily be distorted, decision making is based on how they feel at the time, it is hard to stick in friendship though can easily forgive or stick on an issue, not patient, always crying, short-tempered, somehow attention seekers, and always talkative.
In context of all the above
The three arguments have a lot in common, and human beings normally have more than one personality. No one in life has one type of personality, all people bare two or three personalities and most times there is always one that tops the rest. So, it is upon an individual to study himself and those around him/her and see how to relate in life. Otherwise our personalities can make or fail us in most cases.
3.2 THE THEOLOGICAL APPROACH
Theologically, a human being is seen in two perspectives, since he/she has a soul, spirit, and body. So a person’s character is characterized by what he displays on the outside and what he really is in the inside. And God sees and values the aspects of a human life at all times. (1samuel 16:7).
Man is a tripartite being and there is a distinction between the three parts that make up a human being: 1. Spirit gives man a God- consciousness, 2. Soul gives man Self-consciousness, 3. Body gives man a World-consciousness. Looking at Genesis 1:26 and 27, and Genesis 2:7 gives us the distinction of how man was created by God. The body, which houses the flesh, bones, blood were made out of the dust of the ground. The Lord breathed the spirit into man’s nostrils, and man becomes a living soul.
Human beings’ thoughts and feelings have their root in the soul and spirit of a person. And actions are what the body displays, so according to God he values whatever, these three areas of life display. (1 Thessalonians 5:23).
The thoughts of Man originate from his spirit (1 Corinthians 2:11, Psalms 77:6), according to these verses of the Bible, it is evident that our internal feelings and thoughts have a root from the spirit of Man.
And in Galatians 5:19-21, it is evident that the actions displayed normally define our behaviors, hobbies, and actions. So the personality of a person theologically is defined by his thoughts and feelings plus their actions. However, as human beings God has allowed us to see the outside actions and we eventually try to ascertain the thoughts of an individual, and also tell their personality.
Nevertheless, according to Romans 8:1,5 and Galatians 5:22-26, the Bible talks about the source of our character as depending where we place our spirit in terms of time, work, and relationships. If one places his energy on the things of the flesh, he/she shall display an evil personality and if placed on the spirit, he/she shall display a good character.
The soul, which is the center of all spiritual affairs, God’s intention of sending his Holy Spirit was to help the spirit of Man relate with the heavenly God. The soul of Man can be thirsty, hungry, aggrieved, and also loving (Jeremiah 31:25, Psalms 42:2, Job 30:25, Song of Solomon 1:7). The character of Man is housed in the soul of man, and it is the one that dictates the personality of man.
Man has two spiritual worlds to give his soul to, and that is the Godly spiritual world and satanic spiritual world. Man’s personality is determined by what world his/her soul relates with. When a person’s soul closely relates with the satanic world then a character of cruelty is seen out of that person’s life, and that character is depicted by things like anger, rage, quarrels, greed, fights, malice, envy, and many others (Galatians 5:19-21, Mark 7:20-23, Colossians 3:5-8).
And if any man’s soul relates with God, then that person depicts a good and honorable character in society as stated in Galatians 5:22-23 – love, joy, meek, patience, and many others.
And in the spiritual perspective we believe that a person’s character or personality is built by his relationship with one of the spiritual worlds, and that parents depending on the way they raise their children, they pass on a holy or evil personality. In the spiritual perspective personality is viewed as a sinful one or a holy one depending on the habits and behaviors of the people. And it is out of this that people commit sin (crime) or cases by under stepping the laws of God and Government.
Therefore the theological approach versus the scientific approach to explaining personality is based on the source of the feelings and thoughts, which influence the actions and behaviors. The scientific approach seems to let everything upon man to deal with it but the theological approach tends to teach man to depend on God to manage his/her personality.
The differences in the two approaches to understanding personality
1. It focus on man only
2. It interprets everything with the mind of man
3. It teaches man to depend on his human ability to manage personality weaknesses
4. It waits for actions to make a rationale.
5. It does not acknowledge God in its affairs
1. It focuses on the spiritual world for everything
2. It interprets everything according to divine terms
3. It acknowledges that man can’t solve his/her weaknesses without the spiritual world.
4. It helps man to think about his inner person
5. God even values the inner thoughts of a person not only the actions
The similarities within the two approaches
1. They both acknowledge that people are made different in nature
2. They both base their reasoning on feelings, thoughts, and actions.
3. They both acknowledge that people have weaknesses.
4. They both acknowledge that people have strength and they need each other to excel.
4.0 How we build a spiritual character
In Romans 5:4, the Bible tells us that endurance produces a good character. One must plan to be patient with himself and others around as he/she fights or struggles to have a changed character. God may let some kind of situations in life just for the purpose of shaping another character/personality in our lives. Without God, we can’t change our character/personality as adults. Everyone knows himself/herself, the Bible confirms this in (1corithians 2:11), and that what characterizes people is what comes out of them (Mark 7:20, Mathew 15:11). It is the role of any adult to work on the transformation of a personal character or personality.
Steps in building a spiritual/Godly character
1. Study your thoughts and feelings
2. Study your behaviours and hobbies
3. Write down what you think is unworthy about your character
4. Seek for biblical knowledge about your weaknesses
5. Listen to various sermons in that field.
6. Pray about your weaknesses and purpose to change.
7. Invest most of your time in what builds your character into a positive direction.
8. Do a self-assessment periodically. And start again.
Tools needed while building a Godly character
1. The Bible
2. A mentor/leader
3. A church
4. A prayer team/fellowship
The Bible is the core-book to guide in developing a person’s personality in life. And the earlier a person is introduced to this book of life, the better a person’s character is shaped. As earlier stated in the value part, all people want to relate with good people.
Questions to Ponder about
(i) Can you define your personality?
(ii) What is the source of your feelings and thoughts?
(iii) Who influences your actions?
(iv) Can you list your behaviours and actions? Which ones are Godly and which ones are evil?
(v) How do you plan to change into a good person?
(vi) Do you have the necessary tools to building your Godly character?
4.1 Elements of personality
The scientific and spiritual approach may vary but studying all of them, there are key elements that come up in their discussions. In the following lines we shall explore the elements of personality. If you closely look into the matters above, they all agree about the elements down.
What is an attitude?
Attitude is a meditated view or position of a person about something or someone, which is exhibited in gestures, words, and body postures. Or it is an expression of favor or disfavor towards a person, a thing, place, or event. It is driven by feelings or emotions, knowledge, belief, and environment. It drives our actions and reactions to situations or events.
It is classified as positive or negative; it is positive if it is generally acceptable by the society, and negative if it is generally unacceptable by the society.
What are values?
Values are a set of principles that one regards to be held of importance and that an individual willingly gives it all his/her ability in terms of time and resources. In other words it is something that one believes that adds value in terms of spirituality, culture, business, emotions, and sociability. Values are what guide someone’s morals, beliefs, behaviors, and treatment of others. And that no situation or circumstance can influence this person to change his/her values at all times. A person remains true to these values even in the dark of the darkest.
5(c) Expected and acceptable Values in society for any one
All people in life whether they have the following values or not, they expect all people to have the following values in life.
– Hard work
– Creativeness and innovativeness
– Customer care
– And any other value of life.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) What are your values in life?
(ii) Do you understand the values of your institution?
(iii) How are you helping others to stick to the values of your institution?
(iv) What are the values of your nation?
(v) How are you impacting others with your values?
What is relationship?
Relationship is a way objects or people are connected, or it is a state of being connected or together. The connection might be by blood, marriage, nation, tribe, culture, working environment, beliefs, friendship, and many others. Understanding the connection gives us a basis of behavior or a way of treating each other.
The ingredients in having healthy relationships are;
1. Communication (expression of feelings and thoughts)
4. Forgiving and tolerance
5. Giving and sharing
6. Sacrificing and letting others win at times
So, what connects you with all the other people around you or all the things that you have to relate with in life?
Questions to ponder about?
(i) Can you list the relationships you are responsible for in your life?
(ii) What are you doing to keep healthy relationships?
(iii) What is your contribution in all your relationships?
(iv) How do you treat all the people that try to relate with you?
5(e) Habits or behaviors
Habits or behaviors
Habit is a tendency of action that is regular and at times it is hard to break or stop. And behavior is the way one acts or conducts oneself towards others. Habit can be done alone, but a behavior involves treatment of others. Habits and behaviors affect our actions, performances, operations, reactions, working ability, and our response to situations. Our society has branded habits or behaviors as positive or negative. However, each society and community may have its own habits regarded positive or negative, but as Christians we try to measure our habits and behaviors in line with the Bible. It is our role to understand the acceptable habits and behaviors in any society or community for us to have healthy relationships, and this helps us to avoid arguments and fights or frustrations.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) Can you list your habits and behaviours?
(ii) Among your habits and behaviours, which ones can you rank positive or negative?
(iii) What are you doing to change the negative habits or behaviours?
(iv) Do you understand the acceptable habits and behaviours in your society or place of employment?
(v) How are you impacting others or people around you with positive habits and behaviours?
What are skills?
A skill is the ability to do something well while regarding the time of production. It can be referred to as expertise. It is normally driven by the availability of knowledge, health conditions, and willingness. It can be exhibited as a gift or talent, and it can be learnt or adopted.
Ingredients of improving our skills
1. Having a mentor
3. Research and continual reading
4. Self-leadership development or being self-driven.
5. Self-motivation and resilience
All of us in life desire to do or have something but at times we forget to look for the skills necessary to support the desire beneath our hearts or minds.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) What are your skills in life in relation to the work you are doing?
(ii) How much time do you invest in polishing your skills?
(iii) What people do you emulate in the event of pursuing your dreams or profession?
(iv) How are you impacting others with your skills?
What is a Hobby?
A hobby is an activity that one enjoys during his/her free time in life. People’s personality can be viewed or affected by the activities one decides to invest his/her life in whenever free time hits around the corner. The religious circles and our communities have branded some hobbies as wrong or right/evil or holy. So, a person should spend his/her time in a hobby depending on what he/she values in life.
Some hobbies that normally consume our time are; watching movies, reading novels or bible, viewing nature, travelling, listening to political and social debates, talking or sharing with others, listening to music, playing games or sports, doing physical exercises, dancing, face booking or whatsapping, listening to preaching, sleeping, and many others. Otherwise, somewhere somehow we all spend our free time in something.
It is advisable to spend time in hobbies that build your life either spiritually or physically. Wise people are always kin to where they spend their free time. Hobbies that lead to acquisition of knowledge in life are the best to invest time in as an adult. In many cases our hobbies can tell our personalities. So lets avoid wasting time in the name of doing a hobby.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) What are my hobbies?
(ii) How do I spend my free time?
(iii) What are my hobbies contributing to my physical and spiritual life?
(iv) What inspires my hobbies?
(v) Check if there is need to change your hobbies, and list what to change and what to adopt?
6.0 Where is personality made?
Any place called home plays the first role in our lives to show us what is valuable and acceptable in life. In many cases we behave what we learnt at home.
School is another place where we adopt some personality as we grow up in life. So, as parents it is our role to study which schools we send our children too, to avoid children growing into a poor personality. Teachers should help children learn and adopt good personalities from each other and as teachers they should be able to study their children and classify them according to their temperaments, and see how to help them reduce on their weaknesses, as they get encouraged in their strength.
The people around us influence us into a certain character or behavior as we grow up in life, that’s why it is vital to ensure that our children are surrounded with the right people that can influence them positively. When you look at most adults, you see a lot of characters that are in the communities that raised them in life.
(d) Religious affiliations/beliefs
The religious organizations that we are raised in do a lot of impartation in our lives as we grow up or as we associate in those religions. They give us a set of values and beliefs, which normally affect our decision making in life. Any parent should be able to ensure that their children are raised in a religion that will influence them into good people with good values.
(e) Political party/Governance
This may not play much in our early stages but at the end of the day they also influence our beliefs and values in life. And at times the characters of the ruling government are easily depicted in the public.
(f) Biological theory
It is believed that our personalities are made in the biological aspect as genes and chromosomes unite to form a human being. And these theorists believe that our characters are deeply embedded in our genes and that we pass them on to our children during the early years of a baby’s formation.
Questions to ponder about?
(i) Looking into your life, how did the above institutions impact your personality?
(ii) Can you list the positive and negative traits you learnt from the above institutions?
(iii) How much research do you do to relate what you institutions taught you in relation to other institutions views?
(iv) What plans do you have to change the institutions that God may place you in with time?
6.1 More Questions to ponder about
(i) What is your vision, mission, goal, purpose, and objectives (VIMIGOPO) in life?
(ii) Do you understand the VIMIGOPO of all the institutions that God has brought in your life?
(iii) What are you doing to build your church to achieve its VIMIGOPO?
(iv) What are you doing to achieve your VIMIGOPO?
(v) How are you impacting others with your VIMIGOPO?
(vi) Which people are you relating with to help you reach your VIMIGOPO?
6.2 How to tell people’s personalities
(i) Study the trend of their behaviours
(ii) Study the trend of their values
(iii) Study how they spend their free time
(iv) Study how they react to challenges of life
(v) Study how they make decisions in life
(vi) Study what they talk about most of the time
(i) If possible check on their Facebook accounts see who they share with, and what they post.
(ii) See who they spend time with
(iii) Check on their response when it comes to social activities.
(iv) Check on their response to new ideas and strategies
(v) Check on how they treat those who disagree with them.
(vi) Check on how they react to new systems and philosophies.
6.3 How to relate with others in life
(i) Find people whom you share the same values
(ii) Learn how to be tolerant, forgive, and unite others.
(iii) Love patiently those who seem not appreciate you.
(iv) Learn to share with others and listening to others at all times.
(v) Come up to challenges and accept defeat where necessary.
(vi) Show others that you can also make mistakes
(vii) Accept other people’s views at times.
(viii) Do things that may not agree with your feelings.
(ix)Considers others more than you consider yourself.
(x) Always ask yourself, how am I contributing to others than always wanting others to contribute to you in life.
6.4 How to change a character or personality
(i) Accept and write down all the negative or bad or evil habits, behaviors, hobbies, and values.
(ii) Seek for help from experts and spiritual leaders.
(iii) Learn to accept defeat and relate with those that seem better than you in life.
(iv) Give credit to others where necessary.
(v) Teach yourself principles or values like forgiving, patience, sharing, giving, and helping.
(vi) Do things that at times the majority may seem to do as long as it does not violate your values.
(vii) Kill the high ego in you by suppressing it while doing the opposite to what it is calling for in life.
(viii) Tune your mind to new ways/systems, and practices.
(ix)Seek for God’s intervention in Prayers and fasting.
(x) Read materials that lead to change.
(xi)In everything be patient with yourself.
(xii) Change hobbies.
(xiii) Seek new people and go new places.
Different scholars are still studying human personalities to clearly determine the source of change in personalities or character. However, the above information gives us a basis of understanding human personalities or characters. For personal consumption, one needs to understand the people, the organizations, the communities or a country is in to determine how to behave and relate with others.
However, it is the role of each person to study others and learn how to live with them in life. We all want to relate with people that we share the same personalities but life pushes us to live with others, and it is on this note that we need to be patient with others or help them become better people instead of distancing ourselves from them.
A good personality should have the right values, attitudes, habits, and behaviors. And having a vision, purpose, Goal, objectives, and mission in life backs a good personality. Thus it is vital for all people to have the above in life as they manage whatever they are managing.
As custodians of God’s word and leaders of the church, we are part of shaping people’s lives. So, we need to do all we can to influence our people positively in life. Remembering that people and more so children do or act according to what they see, hear and touch. Lets influence our people to have the right values, attitudes, habits, and behaviors in life, both in words and actions. And remember to help people build up a vision, mission, goal, purpose, and objectives for their lives, and as well help them stick to the one of the church and Jesus Christ at large.
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